Premature ejaculation- myth or reality

The notion of premature ejaculation may be so deeply rooted in our social culture, that the efforts of digging it out of the preconceptions or deliberately promoted myths created just for the pharmaceutical industry to cash in, can reach proportions worth of Sisif mission.

Such a shame for the medical community not being able to come up with straight answers and more important, solution oriented approaches. Of course there has been some improvement in this area over the decades, but still, final answers are not fully reached.

Premature ejaculation is believed to affect 25-40% of men in the U.S. Of course, those numbers are a consequence of how you define in the first place premature ejaculation.

Since the numbers were so confusing, with 75% of men self reporting that they ejaculate within the first 10 minutes of the penetration, sex therapist agreed to define premature ejaculation as the lack of control of ejaculation, when that interferes with sexual or emotional well-being in one or both partners.

And that pretty much leaves a lot of place to speculation, since each of us can have different standards when it comes about sexuality, and even more, it looks that it depends on the standards of the partner also.

Not very fair to a man, since subtle psychological mechanisms of power and domination in a couple can lead the woman to manipulate these boundaries in defining "premature ejaculation", putting an emotional burden on the man with the label of "premature ejaculation".

Also, I am fed up with countless websites on internet who try to lure you in with testimonies and boring texts, in the end trying to sell you books about sexual secrets, overcoming this and that, etc, at astronomic prices actually. Any book on Amazon is not more than 15$ but their 'magical' books go all the way in the range of 50$. Please avoid these, I will give you here at no pay all the info you need. I like my readers to be scam-proof and advised, there is enough pain in the world.

Independent of the personal standards, there are some widely recognized factors that can favor premature ejaculation:

*Psychological factors have a major impact. Temporary depression, stress related to financial matters, unrealistic expectations of performance, anxiety of performance actually, low self esteem - they all have their impact on sexuality.

Many of you underestimate the power of psychological factors on your sexuality, but the facts shows different. Therefore, improving communication in a couple, finding resolution to long standing issues, having reciprocal validation in a couple along with openness about likes and dislikes in sexuality, will dramatically improve your sexual performance as well.

When a man is admired and validated by his woman, he is empowered and his self esteem gets a healthy boost. That will reflect in the sexual performance as well. Do not underestimate the power of emotion and communication in a relationship, they are the hidden forces of the sexual mechanism.

* Extreme arousal can be also a factor of influence in premature ejaculation. If the chemistry is high as the sky, the man can get overwhelmed by the flow of stimuli and sensations, and therefor it gets very easy to lose control, even if before he had no such problems. It may happened only with partners who really clicks with your sexuality, so if you feel the danger lurking around(what a danger!) you may want to take it slowly, build up the tension in a steady rhytm.

To understand the physical facts behind premature ejaculation, you need to understand the science of the mechanism of ejaculation which involves 2 processes: emission and expulsion.

I will not bore you with all the "hardtospell" names of the nerves involved in this mechanism but I will tell you this: it is believed that the neurotransmitter serotonin plays a central role in modulating ejaculation.

That means that chemicals in the brain can affect your mechanism of ejaculation. Also, scientists have long suspected a genetic link to certain forms of premature ejaculation. In one study, 91% of men who suffered from lifelong premature ejaculation also had a first-relative with lifelong premature ejaculation.

That is good news actually, because it means you can do specific actions to reverse this mechanism, it doesn't leave all the efforts to the foggy psychological realm altogether.

So what can you do to prevent it or cure premature ejaculation?

Simple exercises commonly suggested by sex therapists can significantly improve ejaculatory control for men with premature ejaculation caused by neurological factors.

Often, these men may benefit from anti-anxiety medication (SSRIs), such as sertraline or paroxetine, as these slow down ejaculation times.

Some men prefer using anesthetic creams, however, these creams may also deaden sensations in the man's partner, and are not generally recommended by sex therapists. You don't want to end up with no sensations in your penis, so be careful with these products.

The answer is not easy, it has to be reached after consulting your doctor and see if you have a medical condition that can be treated this way.

Some other factors that can lead to premature ejaculation

* Age and experience. Young inexperienced men can have a low control over ejaculation. Time and practice will give you the control you want.

* Masturbation habits can also lead to premature ejaculation. When you don't have the mission to take care of your partner sexual needs as well, ejaculation can come faster and change healthy habits. So you may want to not abuse masturbation and spice your sex life with some real sexual interactions.

Another way to train your ejaculation reflex is by practicing coitus interruptus - that means, you can stop at will from time to time during sexual intercourse so you can gain voluntary control over your ejaculation.

Asian world gave us not only cheap cars or hentai cartoons, but from their centuries long obsession with sexual secrets rise some very interesting techniques that enriches the western world with precious knowledge of sexuality.

Tantric sex, often ridiculed and most of the time ignored, has some interesting exercises that can train your muscles involved in erection, so you can hold it for as long as you want. We will talk about that in another article.

Until then, you may want to take a look at the natural herb products we have reviewed on this site, and see if they apply to you in helping overcome sensitive issues of sexuality.